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I trust the risk of loving is always worth taking

Every time we make the decision to love someone, we open ourselves to great suffering, because those we most love cause us not only great joy but also great pain.
The greatest pain comes from leaving...
When the child leaves home, when the husband or wife leaves for a long period of time or for good, when the beloved friend departs to another country or dies … the pain of the leaving can tear us apart.
Still, if we want to avoid the suffering of leaving, we will never experience the joy of loving.
And love is stronger than fear, life stronger than death, hope stronger than despair.
We have to trust that the risk of loving is always worth taking.
— Henri Nouwen

You Can’t Force SomeONE

Posted by Positive Outlooks

Stop trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work.
You can’t force someone to care about you.
You can’t force someone to be loyal.
You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be.
Sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re best without.
You got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be.
Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay.
Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken.
You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who’s not ready to give it you.
And it’s hard when your heart has labeled that person as someone you could spend forever with, but you just have to accept that they’re not that person...
And you might not understand why...
May be, the future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out...
But don’t put your happiness on hold for someone who isn’t holding on to you.
That broken thing you keep trying to put back together is keeping your life from that beautiful thing that’s waiting to be built.
You deserve better…

— Trent Shelton

The ONE

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someONE who can completely turn your world around.

You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.

You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.

When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement.

They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself.

Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.

There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around.
You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are.

The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever.

Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again.

Colours seem brighter and more brilliant.

Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all.

A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face.

In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby.

Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you.

You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do.

Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon.

You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible.

You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you.

You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end.

Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile.

Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

— written by Bob Marley